Do you get more respect if you are feared or loved?

People may appreciate you more if you are loved, but people will respect you more if you are feared. When you are feared you are respected, but when you are loved you are underestimated. No one wants to be underestimated. When you are underestimated people start to rethink you, and wonder if you really no what you are doing. They also soon realize that you have no backbone and that you end up hiding when trouble comes. Therefore I think that you will get more respect if you are feared. But who says you can’t have both? Who says you can’t be loved and feared at the same time? Being loved and feared is one of the hardest things to do in the world because, how can you please everyone at the same time and also no that you aren’t underestimated or powerless. Fear gives you power and control, and whether that is a good or a bad thing we can’t always control. When you think of fear you generally think of someone hurting you physically or mentally, but is that truly what fear means? Fear to me means that it is not always a negative thing. It may be a motivator or it may help you in many ways to prove someone wrong. It could help you win a competition or even help you be a better person. It may still be changing your perspective on things but is that such a bad thing? I seem to think it isn’t. Fear puts a twist in this world. It means many different things and people have many different opinions about it. You can control the fear, but love is harder to maintain. Meaning you can control how much someone fears you by how you do something, but you can’t get people to be in love with you twenty-four seven. Only they have the power to decide that. I think in this world we get more respect when we are feared simply because if every single person loved you, they would start to expect the same for them and expecting you to please them, and you can’t please everyone. If you are feared people now know how strong you are when it comes to dealing with things, they can respect you in the way that they know you’re capable of doing things the right way. When someone fears you or fears something it doesn’t mean you still can’t love them or appreciate them. It just means they respect you. In the end I think most people would rather be feared for who they are than to be loved for something they are not.

Why did I pick this piece? I picked this piece because from what I have seen, many classmates have believed that you get more repect if you are loved. I think by reading this it might give them a new prespective. They may not believe it still, but it will have them thinking. It was also one of my better creative writing pieces because I put alot of thought into it and put myself in other people's shoes.